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The Insomniac doesn’t have much to blog about lately so maybe I’d just expand on the previous topic and the question posted: “Is true love good for everybody?”

There are two parts to that question I guess. Since the Insomniac is an artist by heart who thrives in romance, irony, passion and such extremes, I will say I believe that true love is good for everybody. Well, except the clergy who by choice commits to celibacy.

While true love is for everybody, I’d also say there is no one true love for a single person. Meaning there might be several possible “perfect mate” for one mortal being. Love is mostly a choice. Although we couldn’t exactly say it, our unconscious mind chose who we love or fall in love with. The problem with choices is that people tend to choose the wrong people for them.

Let me illustrate: if A, B, C, D and E are perfect matches for person Z, chances are, Z will choose M or Q or K or S or V and stick with them till eternity. That’s where the problem comes – choosing to stick with the wrong person. On my previous post, the girl (my friend) is obviously sticking with the wrong person given that she knows she’s able to feel much more with someone else. She probably just doesn’t want to risk it.

Risk what? Being hurt? Maybe it’s just me but having a mediocre relationship with someone for ten to twenty-five years hurts a lot more compared to a one-time bad break-up.

Here’s an interesting question - Why doesn’t it occur to people that by sticking with a mediocre relationship, they keep missing their chances of meeting their possible perfect matches?

Now if true love is good for everybody except the frigid, then what if love happens at the wrong place and time? Is this how mistresses (and loverboys) are born?

Yes! This happens when a person isn’t patient enough to wait for Mr. or Ms. Right. Very much like the movie Bridges of Madison County. In that movie, middle-aged housewife Francesca (Steep) meets documentarist Robert (Eastwood) and both are swept off into a whirlwind romance they’ve never experienced with anyone else before. Sometimes, that’s how it is in real life when people don’t know what they want and how to get it and even if they do, they don’t have the patience to wait for it to happen.

Or maybe some people are forever meant to be doomed.

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